Someone who gets sexual pleasure by watching other people take off their clothes or have sex, usually secretly is called a voyeur. Voyeurism, the more scientific term, is loosely defined as spying on unsuspecting individuals for sexual gratification. One of the criterions of voyeuristic disorder which is more common in men than women requires recurrent and intense sexual arousal from observing an unsuspecting person who is naked, in the process of disrobing, or engaging in sexual activity, as manifested by fantasies urges, or behaviours. Another criterion requires the person to have acted on his or her sexual urges with a nonconsenting person, or to have experienced clinically significant distress or impairment in social, occupational, or other important areas of functioning as a result of the urges or fantasies. Well, assuming your partner has not acted on his urges with a nonconsenting victim, if you maintain a mutually satisfying, close relationship, it would likely indicate that the clinically significant distress or impairment component is also lacking. Nevertheless, the willingness to take advantage of opportunities to visually invade others' privacy is more common than you might think.

An appetite for Forbidden Fruit

Although most would not admit it, there is no doubt that many people would take the opportunity to have a peek at someone when they know they should not. Voyeurism: It is good as long as long as we do not get caught. It is true that a significant percentage of people would watch an attractive person undressing if they knew they wouldn't be caught. Some people that is, more men than women will admit they would watch two attractive people having sex like on live stream porn, if they knew they wouldn't be detected.

Varieties of Intrusion

Exhibitionism and Voyeurism recognize that voyeurism incorporates a spectrum of behaviour, ranging from an occasional sneak peak as a method of sexual release to an individual's compulsive, exclusive sexual outlet. Where your partner falls on this spectrum will determine the extent to which his behaviour disrupts your relationship. If this is the first time you have noticed the behaviour, it is not most likely not being used as a complete substitute for intimacy with you. And there is good news that many people who spy on unsuspecting others benefit from counselling or therapy even when they do not meet the diagnostic criteria of Voyeuristic Disorder. Loving, respectful discussion of and attention to the problem behaviour can allow you to address the underlying issues, and move forward with a happy, healthy relational future.